Since becoming a Mum, I often feel like I’ve lost my sense of self. It is so easy to stop doing the things that made you you, and that you enjoyed doing, all because you now have this little person relying on. Yes, we are very lucky to have amazing friends and family around for Freya to go to, but the mum guilt draw is often too strong. “I shouldn’t go to the gym, I should stay home with Freya to make sure she has a good sleep,” ” I won’t go out in the evening, just incase she wakes up I want to be there.” Oh the list could go on and on. And I’m sure I’m not alone in these thoughts.
I really do admire the mums who can keep doing the things they so enjoyed before, fitting the babies into their lifestyle. I’ve had a few people ask me how I fit everything in, I think by this they mean being a mum and still baking. But you see, baking I can do at home, usually with Freya on my hip, in my happy place.
So please don’t think I’ve got it sussed. I think we all have different things that we struggle with not just in parenthood, but in life. So please don’t compare yourself to others and think you’re not as good as them, because I’m sure they will be looking at you, thinking the same.
That said, I do think it is good to surround yourself with positive influences. I have a lot of friends who are such positive, uplifting souls that I love to be around. A few in particular, that when I see it just puts everything back into perspective. If I am feeling stressed or worrying about something, to see them will bring me back down to earth.
I’m going off topic a little bit here, but it is only a short one. Just to say, many days I do feel like such a different person, who is Carly?? Im still here, and slowly slowly Im getting back to myself. A slightly more tired, but a lot happier self.
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